freezer section vs produce

Where do you start your grocery shopping routine?  Do you start in the frozen section? the produce? pantry items?  Do you go up and down every aisle?

If you're partnering in life with a person with Asperger's syndrome, I'm almost certain there is some type of routine that is followed.

Our routine begins in the frozen section.  I don't even really know why.  Why would we start with the most perishable items?  I do know that routine needs to be followed, even if ice cream is involved.

Last week when we journeyed to the store I was on the hunt for caramel vanilla ice cream.  I was wanting to switch up our routine and start in the produce section and work backwards through every aisle, finally ending up in the freezer section with my wonderful caramel ice cream.  I knew there would be resistance to this change, but I did not want to end up with caramel vanilla soup in our grocery cart.

I see three options here:

1. End up with caramel soup.

2. Bring up the idea of change quietly, as if I'm expecting it to be a problem.

3. Bring up the idea of change boldly, as if I'm not expecting a problem.  

I chose option #2.  Not a good choice.  This choice always leads to the most resentment.  I just want to speak boldly because switching things up is a part of life.  Flexibility is required.  

That's the real difficulty in living with someone living with AS.  How to approach change without being insensitive and still maintaining your own identity.  If you consistently change all that you want to fit in with someone else's view point, you are eventually going to lose your mind.

That is the heart of what I am trying to figure out.  How do I support my husband and not turn into a shell of who I once was?

If anyone has an idea, please feel free to share.

The kicker is that after all of this internal debate/resentment/frustration, the freezer section was closed for an unknown reason and I am without my favorite treat.